This Message May Offend You

Joel Conti March 24, 2019

Big Idea: Offence is a ruthless master, often keeping us enslaved to negativity. Like a pair of glasses, it affects everything we see.

Offence: “resentful or annoyed, typically as a result of a perceived insult”

There are a few areas of offence that I would like to highlight – three in particular;

  1. Offence happens when you have been mistreated
  2. Offence happens when you simply believe you were mistreated
  3. Offence happens when you are being challenged to change when you don’t see the need to change


Offence is the direct result of your perception. There are definitely things in our life that we can be annoyed at.

Offence attacks one of the most important gifts that we have in life – relationships.



Offence comes from a few perspectives that I want to correct:

Offended Perception #1

I’ve been truly hurt, and I am going to allow my wound to define my worldview. Offence happens when you have been mistreated.


“Esau held a grudge against Jacob because of the blessing his father had given him. He said to himself, “The days of mourning for my father are near; then I will kill my brother Jacob.” Genesis 27:41 NASB

Offended Perception #2

If you don’t see things exactly the way I see them, I’m offended. Offence happens when you simply believe you were mistreated.
Now when John heard in prison about the deeds of the Christ, he sent word by his disciples and said to him, “Are you the one who is to come, or shall we look for another?” And Jesus answered them, “Go and tell John what you hear and see: the blind receive their sight and the lame walk, lepers are cleansed and the deaf hear, and the dead are raised up, and the poor have good news preached to them. And blessed is the one who is not offended by me.”  As they went away, Jesus began to speak to the crowds concerning John: “What did you go out into the wilderness to see? A reed shaken by the wind?  What then did you go out to see? A man dressed in soft clothing? Behold, those who wear soft clothing are in kings’ houses.  What then did you go out to see? A prophet? Yes, I tell you, and more than a prophet. Matthew 11:2-9 ESV

  • “Shall we look for another?” (Jesus was not what John Expected)
  • Blessed is the one who is not OFFENDED by me (The ministry of Jesus will offend the church at the time)
  • Hear and See- these are the key to offence- pay attention to what you HEAR and SEE and what you believe to HEAR and SEE

Offended Perception #3

If you ask me to do something that I don’t feel comfortable with, I’m offended. Offence happens when you are being challenged to change when you don’t see the need to change.

  • John had to embrace a new worldview that he hadn’t expected
  • Comfort is the enemy of health- in every area of our life, we know this
  • Any time you cater to the way you feel, you are destined to stay comfortable, never change and get really offended when anyone suggest anything different


Offended Perception #4

Everyone is out to get me. Offence happens when you simply believe you were mistreated

  • This is my favourite of all- if you have felt this in your life, let me speak from experience
  • Saul was being oppressed by an evil spirit and David came to play music for him


1 Samuel 16:16 David will play the harp when the spirit comes upon Saul and he will feel better

Worship is warfare- when we worship, darkness flees – side note


  • David becomes one of Saul’s armour bearers – David literally would carry Saul’s large shield
  • David was hired to play worship music and the evil spirit would leave
  • David was hired to carry Saul’s shield
  • David was literally hired for spiritual and physical protection- it’s a very trusted position to be in
  • But Saul began to become Jealous- this is when the spirit of offence comes upon Saul

Scripture Passage: I Samuel 18

  • David killed Goliath and returned home and many women shouted about His power and strength…this drove Saul nuts (literally)


 “…came out from all the towns of Israel to meet King Saul with singing and dancing, with joyful songs and with timberels and lyres. As they danced, they sang: “Saul has slain his thousands, and David his ten thousands.” 1 Samuel 18:6-8 NIV


“Saul was very angry; this refrain galled him. “They have credited David with tens of thousands,” he thought, “but with me only thousands. What more can he get but the kingdom? From that time on Saul kept a jealous eye on David”


  • When trust is broken, it effects all relationships
  • Mistrust disguises itself as a SHIELD but it is really DAGGER that inflicts self-harm on your soul

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